Tyler Perry explains his decision to cast Kim Kardashian in his movie

Tyler Perry sent a letter to his fans, and I am one, asking that we allow him to explain his decision to cast Kim Kardashian in his new movie, The Marriage Counselor. Basically, he is trying to appeal to a younger audience and, as always, impart some valuable life lessons including pitfalls to avoid. A quick glance through his message board reveals that his fans are loyal and plan to give Perry and the film a chance. There are fans who are not as flexible and vow that they will not see the movie because of Kardashian's participation. Even men are outraged over her perceived belittling of marriage. Kris Humphries only lasted 72 days after the wedding. What do you think about the controversy? My opinion is below.


Although I have never been a fan or watched her show, I have no objections to Kim K.'s appearance in The Marriage Counselor. It was a brilliant business move to cast her in the film because her fans cross all age, gender, and socioeconomic boundaries. That equals even more cross-over appeal than Tyler Perry has experienced thus far with his movies. People should understand that he is not only a writer, producer and filmmaker, but he is a businessman. With that said, I would be more concerned about how Perry is using his wealth and influence to give back in these difficult economic times. Many of the people who have faithfully supported his efforts by buying tickets to plays and now movies and purchasing DVDs are barely making it. Kim Kardashian having a role in a movie, lead or otherwise, is not at the top of my list of important issues. I understand some people's objections because of the way that she gained her fame and fortune but the fact of the matter is that there is a market for her willingness to put her life on display, obviously. Perhaps people should remember that even the most unlikely messenger can deliver news that will have a positive effect and change lives for the better. The Bible has many stories of God using the worst and most despised for something good. According to Mr. Perry, he is attempting to do the same. Viva Free Enterprise!

Remembering September 11, 2001

9/11


September 11th, the year two thousand and one
The workday in America had barely begun
When evil descended from the sky
Causing thousands to be injured or to die

Those caught in the line of fire were innocent... just going about their day
A nation was horrified to see them taken in such a violent way
And as a nation, we mourned
While the attackers were vehemently scorned

Stories of loved ones lost are constantly being told
Some stories include heroes in the face of danger standing bold
September 11, 2001. We’ll never forget what happened on that date
Shaken? Sure. But this country is still undeniably great.






Encouraged


Tragedy far beyond anything my eyes have ever seen
How could anyone be so hateful, so callous, so mean?
Only God knows the depths of the horror the victims felt that day
Sacrificed for a senseless cause in a horrible way

An entire nation, indeed most of the world, shocked and dismayed
Frightened and angry survivors demanding that vengeance not be delayed
Days and days of digging... still thousands remain lost
The nation’s leaders vowing to apprehend and punish the attackers at all cost

A country in chaos, yet standing united, standing proud, standing strong
Celebrating the lives of those lost through candle light vigils, prayer, and song
We were rocked by these dastardly deeds, there is no doubt
We were knocked to our knees but we are up again and ready to show the
enemy that we are not out

Though the nation’s past is riddled with the temporary fall
We are sustained by a mighty God who sees us through it all
With a faith never ending, deep abiding, and true
Our citizens remain encouraged for we know what God can do.



Poems excerpted from "My Heart's Treasure" by Sunida York ©2005 All Rights Reserved.

RHONY - Oh Those Damn Blondes!

You know things are bad when Kelly is calling anyone "weird." She said it to Alex several times during tonight's episode. Kelly's a sweetheart, wacky, but a sweetheart. Oh, but those damn blondes! Baby, they can work a nerve!

Poor Alex... she needs to take Kelly's advice and just observe the altercations between the other women and not try to participate. Alex can't confront someone and come out on the winning end to save her life. She ends up standing there with her mouth wide open as the other person shuts her down and throws her out or walks away. Hey, Alex, you do realize you defended the woman who threw you out of her party just a few episodes back, right? Head check, please. I'm still in shock that she's modeling. On to the next damn blonde...

What's the chick's name who's so childish and rude? Oh, yeah, Sonja. You believe in a pecking order? Cindy should've pecked your a$$! You're all adult women. How about simply treating each other with respect? By the way, are you and Ramona more than friends? It appears that you are sharing more than friendship and Pinot. Now for the last damn blonde...

Oh, Ramona, Ramona. You can b!t&h it out but you can't take it. As soon as Jill lit into you, you melted into a puddle. Get a better body guard than Alex. Unless she can shoot out pepper spray while she's standing around with her mouth wide open, she's pretty useless as a means of protection.

Cindy, jump in there, girl. You were too quiet. Did you see how the Countess pulled shade on those blondes? You can do it just as well. There's no being reasonable with them. You have to come in swinging elbows, baby! Take your 15 minutes of shine instead of letting them get all the camera time.

Jill, love, love, love you, girl. You're standing up for yourself. Now that's the what AND the ish! However, I don't think you should borrow anyone's swim wear, dear. I really thought that you would have cut ties with Ramona after the way she spoke to you about your step-daughter during your auction but you must truly like her. Too bad. Even though she says she's going to be more considerate towards you, she won't. Selfish people are never considerate of others.

LuAnn, You handle yourself better than any of the other housewives. You take charge and you don't apologize for it. And, if anyone has the nerve to ask you to fall back or say sorry, you have none of that nonsense. The Countess is damn near gangsta! That's how we like it-- brass balls, no chaser. She can tell your a$$ where to go with class and style. Not one cuss word. She's good. Hey, Countess, can you teach a sista how to do that? Put those lessons on etiquette you give to the rude blondes on DVD. Bestseller, baby.

Seriously, though, the show didn't disappoint. I was entertained. Brunettes rock! Blondes, kick rocks.

Homeowners Foreclose on Bank of America

Check out this article and video where a couple gets to foreclose on Bank of America for illegally trying to seize their home for which they paid cash. It's about time they (the bank) got a taste of their own medicine.

Milk+Honey

milk + honey series trailer from brown paper dolls on Vimeo.

It would be great to have Debbie Allen back on TV in a series! According to the email I received, the scripted series is looking for a home on network television. The handsome Idris Elba is the executive producer along with the Brown Paper Dolls company (Dana Gills, Asha Kamali May, and Jeanette McDuffie). Lance Gross is a part of the talented cast. Gotta love that, ladies!

Let's help them make this show the "ish"!! LOVE! DREAMS! GO!!!!

Prayers for Candace

I haven't made a post in quite some time but I wanted to take a moment to ask for prayers for my beautiful 7 year-old niece named Candace, the youngest daughter of my sister Cindy and her husband, who is in an Intensive Care Unit following an ATV accident yesterday. A team of surgeons will be working to stop bleeding on her brain and repair other serious injuries. She may require skin graphs to her arm and other areas where flesh was stripped from her small body. She is enduring a tremendous amount of excruciating pain.

Normally, she is a fun-loving, feisty, super-smart little girl who loves learning and playing with her cousins. She has had aspirations of becoming an attorney since at least the age of five. She was always clear and frank about that. I have always been proud of what a remarkably astute and determined young lady she has been since arriving in this world. She pays close attention to everything and has a memory like a steel trap. She is an 'A' Honor Roll student.

I'm devastated after seeing her at the hospital last night. So, I ask those who believe in the power of prayer to please join her parents and big sister, Briana, family and friends who are praying for her full recovery without lasting or debilitating affects. She is a very caring child who attends Sunday School and church services faithfully and I know that if you needed it, she would pray for you.

Thanks!!!

Peace and blessings.

~Sunida

Sunshine Anderson - The Sun Shines Again

Just saw Sunshine perform this song from her new CD on the Mo'Nique Show. I know you remember "Heard It All Before". Oh, what the heck?! I'll post that one, too. Enjoy!!

Cornelious "See" Flowers: The Message, STAND

More poetry from Cornelius.

Camden, SC church to host Christmas concert

Free Times - Rant & Rave

The Free Times, a South Carolina entertainment magazine, features a section called Rant & Rave where citizens can phone in and voice their opinions in hopes that they will be quoted anonymously in print.  The following rants are excerpted from Free Times.

November 24-30, 2010

   Remember all the people who insisted two years ago that Obama didn't have enough experience to be president?  Those people should be shouting the same thing about Sarah Palin.

   Republications and conservatives spent us into a bottomless pit of debt, blamed anyone but themselves, then are seriously thinking of nominating Sarah Palin for president.  Have any of you ever read her rap sheet:  Makes Jim Bakker look like the pope.

December 8-14, 2010

   Dear Republicans: please, please, please nominate Sara Palin for president. She is exactly what this country needs:  Reassurance that in our "Can Do" country, any unqualified, quitter, moron and sellout can become president.

   A rave for Sarah Palin:  Thanks for prematurely quitting a real job where you could do some real damage and becoming a (mostly) harmless roving curiosity.  Could you help me convince Nikki [Haley] to join you?  You could be a pair of mama grizzlies "protecting" your families from afar. (Bonus: A rant to John McCain for unleashing this curiosity on an unsuspecting public.  Had you made better decisions during the campaign, you might be president now.)

   I went to the Vista and saw Bahama Mama wearing spandex.  They need to outlaw that.

Electronic Pickpocketing

Thieves never give up... they just adapt.  Electronic pickpocketing is the latest identity and credit card fraud threat. The second video gives pointers on how to prevent this from happening to you. Identity Stronghold offers protection sleeves for credit and debit cards that use RFID technology. Aluminum foil, is supposed to work as well.




 



Special thanks to my cousin Tonya for sharing this eye-opening story.

Jon B - Comfortable Swagg

I know you remember this smooth white boy from back in the day! Vanilla Soul, baby! His new CD is titled Comfortable Swagg. Jon B performed "Body Language" on the Mo'Nique show tonight. He's still got the pipes.  "Someone To Love" featuring Babyface has to be my all time favorite by him. Check it below.

Holiday weight gain meets The 17 Day Diet

Today, guests of the Dr. Phil show who have struggled to lose unwanted pounds were introduced to a new ally in their ongoing battle with the bulge. Dr. Mike Moreno jumped into the fray with his 17 Day Diet program. Noting that most people reach a plateau while dieting, a point at which they stop losing weight, Dr. Moreno asserted that this is not the case with the 17 Day Diet. In addition, it is not necessary to "trick" or "confuse" the body so that weight loss can continue.

This new program does include a cleansing phase but it does not require users to use liquids only (like juicing) or to take supplements.  Instead, dieters eat real food. The body's metabolism is reset or activated as when a weight lifting program is started. The program also incorporates a Hunger Fullness Meter to help deter dieters from over eating.

Dr. Moreno advises those who want to lose weight during the holidays to "pre-diet" by going on the 17 day cycle to drop the pounds before the holidays.  He also gave the following tips for holiday party goers.

  ---  Eat a healthy dinner before going to the party
  ---  Choose only 2-3 of the healthiest appetizers
  ---  Don't hang around the buffet table
  ---  Just say no to prepacked holiday candies and cookies

Remember that the brain takes 8-12 minutes to register what you have already consumed, so you may not feel full or satisfied with the amount of food you've eaten right away. If you are not certain that you are ready to commit to a new diet, visit the Dr. Phil website to take a quiz he's designed to help you decide.

The 17 Day Diet book is currently available only through Dr. Moreno's website, which has recipes and other helpful tools.


Happy dieting! 

Nicki Minaj - Lil Kim Beef

These two are really going at each other. Now that's what I call entertainment.

Jumping The Broom

Looks like it's a good one! Stars Angela Bassett, Paula Patton, Laz Alonso,Loretta Devine, Tasha Smith,  and DeRay Davis. Meagan Good is also featured along with Romeo Miller and Valarie Pettiford ("Big Dee Dee" from Half and Half TV sitcom).

Lisa Marie - Open and Honest

The Oprah Winfrey interview with Lisa Marie Presley on her relationship with Michael Jackson just ended.  I had planned to take notes to give a detailed account of what transpired but as a fan who still gets emotional when his untimely passing is the subject, I decided to just listen.

Of course, you will be able to view the episode on the NBC website and video clips on Oprah's website. I'll hit the highlights here. 

Lisa Marie confirmed that their marriage was real  and legitimate in every sense.  She had divorced her husband and married Michael twenty days later because they were in love.  She described being with him as "the highest high" she had ever felt.  Being around her father was the only other time she had felt such a sensation.

Although she knew that Michael would be on lots of pain medicine after leaving a certain dermatologist's office, she was told that it was necessary due to certain painful procedures regarding the vitiligo and perhaps other issues. Towards the end of the marriage she realized that he had a drug addiction. His decision to choose the people who were taking advantage of him over Lisa Marie because she was trying to get him away from them so that he could get the help he needed with the addiction led to the breakup of their marriage.  She admitted that the parallels between her father's demise and her then husband's decent were too much to handle.  It was incredulous when Oprah pointed out that the home where Michael collapsed was "just a stone's throw away" across the street from Elvis' home where he died. It is not believed that Michael even knew that about the house.

The two continued to see each other off and on for an additional four years after the divorce until she finally had to end it for good for her own sake.  Oprah asked her how she felt that within months of the divorce, Debbie Rowe was pregnant.  Surprisingly, Lisa Marie said that Michael often told her that Debbie was standing by to have the baby if Lisa Marie did not change her mind about not wanting to bring a child into their union because it had become rocky.  As one could imagine, she said that the situation was very hurtful to her.

She had a lot of regret for not reaching out to Michael prior to his death, especially since he had "thrown a line out" to her that she rejected. He had asked if she still loved him.  "I'm indifferent," was her reply.  It made him cry.  After his death, she wished that she had tried to save him though she has no idea if that would have been possible.  Michael had no problems shutting out those who dared to say no to him or who tried to make him see that the drugs and the people who supplied them were detrimental to him, including  his family who also tried to intervene. "He would just ice you out," Presley said.

Oprah asked Presley if she had ever witnessed Michael behaving inappropriately toward children and if she believed the allegations lodged against him.  The answer to both questions was a resounding "no." She added that no one really knew what happened except for Michael and his accusers so it would be unfair of her to declare that the allegations were untrue. However, she readily denied any belief of their validity.  During the "last coherent" conversation that she had with Michael, he told her that certain people were trying to kill him to gain control of his music catalog.  She declined to repeat those names.

The interview ended with Presley stating that she appreciated her husband for being so understanding and supportive over the years as she worked through the pain (and anger that she has since let go) she carried because of her love for Michael.  She also said that she will never grant another interview regarding Michael Jackson.

It seems that she is finally in a decent place where her relationship with Michael is concerned. Her depiction of him made him seem less larger than life and more closely the magnanimous, electrifying soul that drew people in like a magnet. Now that the anger is gone and the pain is manageable, she can allow her love for him to just be what it is... genuine and timeless. Trust me, Lisa Marie, his fans will always love him, too. 

Lisa Marie Presley opens up about Michael Jackson today on Oprah

People love to talk to Oprah. Perhaps they feel comfortable with her as if they're simply talking to a friend. In many cases, the grand dame of daytime TV is just having a conversation with one of her celebrity friends. Today, the celeb and friend is Lisa Marie Presley, the ex-wife of entertainment phenomenon Michael Jackson.

The interview will be the first time Lisa Marie has spoken publicly about his death. Fans will want to tune in for this one.

Also noteworthy, various media outlets have reported that Oprah interviewed Michael Jackson's parents. There has not been any mention of an air date for that one. Randy Jackson is said to be upset that the interview even took place.

It still seems unbelievable that he is gone. Visit The Official Michael Jackson website if, like me, you want a copy of Michael Jackson's Vision, the new DVD set that features all of his short films (which we refer to as videos) and 10 never released short films. He is still loved around the world!

Tyler Perry shares painful past on Oprah

Tyler Perry appeared on the Oprah show today to talk in-depth about a childhood riddled with verbal, emotional, physical and sexual abuse. Being a sickly child triggered an abnormal hatred and rage in his father who expressed it by berating and beating his son. Although his mother knew that he was being abused, she was incapable of shielding him since she was beaten and threatened constantly as well, Perry acknowledged.

His story is a powerful one and a testament to many who have suffered abuse that it is possible to overcome such tragic circumstances. Guided through his childhood torment by the exquisitely skillful interviewer and his good friend, Oprah, he told of being unnerved by the mind games his father played. In order to protect himself during brutal beatings, in his mind, he would travel to a park where he once had so much fun. After a particularly vicious beating with a vacuum cleaner hose that left large open welts, Tyler fled to his aunt Jerry's house. She grabbed a gun an confronted his father. She is the inspiration behind his Madea character. One of the saddest parts of his story has Tyler being beaten so mercilessly after his father caught him smirking at him that he could see the little boy (himself) not retreating to the park but instead running away. He said that he died that day. The beating caused him to pass out for three days.

One huge reason Tyler Perry the movie mogul agreed to lay bare his private pain is so that other men who have suffered sexual abuse as children will be able to talk about it and free themselves. At a tender age (5 or 6) his neighbor with whom he was building a bird house or cage put his hand in his pants and without fulling knowing what was happening to him, he experienced an erection. "My body betrayed me," he said. Eventually, a male nurse at the hospital where Perry had been rushed from school did the same thing to him. His third encounter with sexual abuse involved a man from his church who performed oral sex on him and used scriptures from the bible that he had undoubtedly twisted to justify his actions. There was a woman who was the mother of one of his friends who locked him in her house when he attempted to leave, put the key in her vagina and told him that he had to reach in to get it if he wanted to go home. Once he did, he had an erection and the woman pulled him into her to complete her devious plan.

When Oprah asked if he ever told anyone about the sexual abuse, he shared a disgusting story of his father teaching him at an early age that telling would only make things worse for him. A little girl whom Perry liked told him that his father had tried to touch her. One night when she was staying over, he witnessed his father come into the room and try to touch her as she lay in the bed across the room. His father retreated when Tyler turned over in his bed. Tyler told his mother. She packed up the kids and left only to return hours later. His father's physical and verbal abuse got much worse. That was the first and last time that he told.

"You expect as a child that your mother is going to protect you," Oprah said. However, he conceded that his mother was a passive person and that, coupled with the abuse that she was experiencing at the hands of his father, rendered her unable to protect him. As a result, he would spend hours in a crawl space under the house, hiding from the wrath of his own father. "Predators know when a child is an easy mark," he responded when Oprah asked how the other people knew that they could molest him and get away with it.

Perry's years of unbridled abuse caused him to struggle with his sexual identity, intimacy and relationships for a long time. He also had difficulty with issues of anger and rage. When asked how he "acted out" he revealed that he used to make everyone around him miserable, burned down a house, burned his car, and stole things.

"Your father will hear about this show. How do you feel about that?" Oprah inquired.

"I don't care," Perry declared nonchalantly but as a matter of fact. He went on to say that after exposing the abuse in an email to his legions of fans, he received this message from his father sent through his brother.

"If I had beat your ass one more time, you would have been Barack Obama."

In spite of all of the pain he has caused, Perry said that he forgave his father and actually takes care of him. He has provided him with a home and sends monthly checks to him. However, he revealed that he still harbors fear that his father might harm him and therefore refuses to have him in his life.

Oprah said more than once that Tyler Perry was taking a risk by telling such a detailed story of the abuse and degradation he has suffered. I think that he showed a tremendous amount of strength, courage, humility and high character. He has nothing to fear from his fans except an outpouring of love and support that will only be surpassed by their appreciation for giving them the inspiration that they need to tell their own stories.

Predators hide in the dark. That dark, secret place is also their stronghold. It sustains their power and allows them to operate unchecked. It's time for victims to put them in the spotlight so that they will not have the power to hurt anyone else.

Perry's tenth movie, For Colored Girls, will be premiering in November. Join Oprah and Tyler on November 5, 2010 for a special show in which her studio will be filled with 200 men who want to share their stories, how it has changed their lives, and hopefully to heal.

Shemar Moore on Mo'Nique Show

Thank you, Mo'Nique! I know droves of women are sharing that sentiment because we appreciate you having Shemar Moore in the penthouse.

Mo' gave her list of sexy brothers...

Michael Jackson, Sugar Ray Leonard, Franco Harris and Shemar Moore

Here's my list...

Dwayne Johnson, Vin Diesel, Shemar Moore, Morris Chestnut and Terrence Howard

Who's on yours?

Real Housewives of Atlanta... NeNe is back and so is the drama!!

It must be sizzlin' in Hotlanta right now because NeNe Leakes is back to her old self and she is bringing the drama. When she rolled up on Dwight in the first episode of the new season and gave it to him full blast, I knew that we as fans are in for a treat that we will savor like a sinful piece of chocolate. I am glad that they resolved their issues, though. Dwight looked pretty broken up about it. Hey, is it just me or has anyone else noticed that each time NeNe has had a falling out with one of her friends, it's because of something Kim said? Think back to last season when NeNe and Sheree were at odds. Um hum. Wendy Williams announced on her show last week that NeNe and her hubby are divorcing. Way to spoil it, Wendy since that episode hasn't aired, yet. It's cool. That's why we watch your show... for the hot, gooey gossip. Just don't do it again.

Speaking of Sheree, she seems happier this season. Good for her. She and NeNe gave good advice to their children. Her argument that she is not Dwight's friend so it makes no sense that he would spend $30,000 on her fashion show seems on point to me. Come on, Sheree, give us a little more to talk about.

Dwight's friend did not help matters when they spoke with Sheree. Paying a seamstress and making copies of fliers and whatever surely did not amount to that much paper. They looked like fools. Dwight... is it true that you can't breathe through your nose?

It's apparent that Kim likes pretty boys. But... you're wasting your time when they're all gay. They don't want you. By the way, you shouldn't want them, either. Nothing against people of the gay persuasion, but it was ridiculous that she was falling all over them and even asked a few if they were gay. Maybe she was just playing.

Kandi is a really good friend to Kim. She is supporting her fully. And Kandi's so right, she needs to be paid if she helps Kim with another song. Hey, Kandi, call me when you're ready to check out my lyrics. Seriously. I'm good!

The supermodel seems very down to earth. She should figure out why she's so afraid to commit before making it official with her man. It's a lot easier to get married than it is to get divorced if it doesn't work out. Counseling is not a dirty word.

What happened to Lisa Wu-Hartwell? Bravo could have kept her around a bit longer. We liked her husband, I mean her. LOL. I guess the nice girls who don't contribute to the drama get cut. I'm sure she and DeShawn Snow will be fine. All the best, ladies!

Can't wait til next Monday for the next episode!